Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose. - Brene Brown
Even just speaking the word “vulnerable” can feel uncomfortable to some people. But what many people don’t know is that openness and sincerity can help us in our personal lives as well as our professional endeavors.
Vulnerability can seem like a scary thing, but it can lead to our greatest strengths. Last year some well-respected, big and strong athletes set the tone by revealing a more vulnerable side of themselves when they admitted to struggling with anxiety, depression and grief. This simple recognition of weakness has turned out to be a significant strength in their lives because instead of hiding challenges, they moved past them.
Vulnerability isn’t about gaining sympathy. It’s about recognizing what you are experiencing as a normal part of life. Remember, we are all human. By acknowledging our own humanness,...
Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.
Exhausted? Feeling overwhelmed? Running on empty?
Much of our crazy-busy lives today are filled with activities, things to do and general all-round busy-ness. Many people get to the end of the day and feel like they have spent all of their energy—and sometimes they aren’t even sure what they have accomplished!
If you tend to spend all of your time doing things to please other people, helping everyone else with their projects or pouring into others without leaving time for yourself, then now is definitely time for you to start refilling your own tank!
Filling your tank doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to just quit your job or stop taking care of your family. What it means is that you many need to pay a little bit more attention to the “gas gauge” of your heart before you run on empty for so long that you get burned out. Take some time for you by...
Let’s take a minute to think about how babies eat as they start on solid food. Most of the time, they are very satisfied with their mushed-up peas, strained carrots, and weird-looking rice puffs. No salt, no spices, nothing fancy. Usually, they’ll just eat whatever is put in front of them. And sometimes they’ll try to eat things that aren’t even edible!
When you were a kid, the same thing probably happened. Your parents probably filled your plate with food at dinner time and you simply ate it with very few questions. There was likely a time in your life when you probably didn’t have much of a choice as to what was on your plate. You simply ate what was put in front of you.
Sometimes our lives can become like a plate that someone else is filling. Our plates can be full of all kinds of things we don’t want or need, things that we didn’t really choose. If your plate is full and you’re wondering what you can do about it, then read...
Chase down your passion like it’s the last bus of the night.
If you’re a person who has ever relied on public transportation, then you know what it’s like to desperately need to catch a bus. Especially if it’s the last bus of the night! If you don’t get it? Well, you’ll be stuck in a place where you just don’t belong.
Sometimes, people wake up in the middle of their lives and wonder how we got to where they are. You might be asking yourself if you missed the bus—or got on the wrong bus. Chasing your passion is sort of like catching the “bus” of life. First, we need to make sure we know what our passions are (getting the right bus) and then we need to run to catch that bus!
Define Your Passions.
If you’re thinking that you’d love to chase your passions but you haven’t yet defined them, you’re certainly not alone. Many people have been living so long to please others that they...
Have you ever considered the fact that you will never have today again? This day, once it’s finished, will simply be part of the past. For some people, this might be very good news. If today has been a challenging day for you, then you might be looking forward to its conclusion! But if you’re enjoying your day, then you may never want it to end.
In either case, today is really the only thing that you have power over. Yesterday has passed. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. So, what are you doing to make today count?!
Consider Your Attitude.
Sometimes just changing your mindset about your day can change everything else too. If you wake up in the morning with dread about what’s ahead, you’ll likely go through your day with an Eeyore-shaped dark cloud floating above you. On the other hand, even when you know that what you have to face might be difficult, you can still look for the silver linings. Changing your attitude can turn a day that had the potential to be...
No matter how much we might want it to, real life doesn’t allow us to travel through time in the same way that we see in the movies or on television. Whether you imagine yourself saving the world (ala Dr. Who) or you’re just trying to pass your project for history class (more along the lines of Bill and Ted’s Excellent Adventure), eventually you’re going to have to come to terms with the fact that you can really only live for today.
We cannot change the past.
We cannot step into the future.
Ultimately, the only thing we can truly have control over is the present.
Appreciate This Moment
It’s easy to get distracted by past hurts or future worries and forget that this moment, right now, can be good. Even in the midst of hard times, we can find something to learn from and be thankful for. That flower bursting forth through the crack of the sidewalk. The sounds of laughing children on a playground. The smell of fresh brewed coffee. Each day, remember to...
Large projects. Small projects. It all needs to be finished by yesterday! Whether you are working for yourself or someone else, a whole load of tasks screams for your attention every day. Competing priorities is a struggle that most people face. Unless you want your life to simply happen to you, you’re going to need to take some initiative and make some plans.
Consider these thoughts about balancing out competing priorities:
The Tyranny of the Urgent
The difference between important and urgent may sometimes be difficult to distinguish. Along the lines of Charles Hummel’s book from the 1960s, the demands in your life can get out of order. Even though making cookies might not be first on your list for the day, if your book club president calls at the last minute to say they’re coming to your place tonight, all of the sudden you start baking! Even though you really don’t have time.
In reality, you’re trying to build your business and...
Do you hear voices inside your head? If so, you’re not alone! In fact, almost everyone does. Not necessarily the kind of voices that are audible, but most people have a dialogue inside their heads.
Call it a gremlin. Call it an internal monologue. Call it the remaining influence of an overbearing mother-figure. Whatever you want to call it, it’s your inner voice.
Your inner voice has the power to be helpful and useful. It doesn’t have to fill you with fear, stress, or hesitation. It can guide you in decisions. It can encourage you to go to that job interview. Your inner voice can even remind you to enjoy life, even when you’re wanting to eat healthier but really want to choose the greasy French fries instead of the salad… “just this one time.” After all, life is too short to suck… right?
When the inner dialogue says you aren’t enough, not worthy, or lack value, the self-criticism can become an irritant that could steal...
Have you ever met one of those people whose life seems to be absolutely ideal? Someone who never seems to encounter difficulty or struggle in any way? (You know, the folks whose lives are so great that you secretly want to hate them!)
However much it may seem like nothing goes wrong for these people-with-perfect-lives, that’s simply not true. No one has a perfect life. These seemingly perfect-people-you-want-to-hate encounter struggle and difficulty the same as everyone else. They get flat tires. They get cavities. Their pet ferrets run away.
So what’s the difference between these seemingly perfect people and “normal” people?
The difference is the way they handle life’s challenges.
The difference is resilience.
Resilience is all about being flexible or malleable. Being able to recover when things don’t go as expected. Resilience is a quality that allows a person to experience difficulties and then get up, dust off, and move forward.
Armed with the knowledge that happiness can be in an indicator of health, and health can predicate longevity, we would all be wise to consider ways we might be able to usher a bit more happiness into our lives!
Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure.
Each day we can decide whether to see our circumstances as “ordeals or adventures”.
As difficulties or opportunities.
As problems or prospects.
Some people seem to naturally be more cynical/negative/unhappy than others. We have all met our share of grumpy-Ebenezer-Scrooge-types. Maybe you are one! These negative people, regardless of circumstances, seem to have a natural bent toward being more of an Eeyore than a Tigger. But even the deepest melancholy can often be overcome with positive thoughts.
If “look on the bright side” doesn’t chime with you at first, don’t be alarmed. You aren’t destined to fail at being happy. But you may have to work a...
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