Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose. - Brene Brown
Even just speaking the word “vulnerable” can feel uncomfortable to some people. But what many people don’t know is that openness and sincerity can help us in our personal lives as well as our professional endeavors.
Vulnerability can seem like a scary thing, but it can lead to our greatest strengths. Last year some well-respected, big and strong athletes set the tone by revealing a more vulnerable side of themselves when they admitted to struggling with anxiety, depression and grief. This simple recognition of weakness has turned out to be a significant strength in their lives because instead of hiding challenges, they moved past them.
Vulnerability isn’t about gaining sympathy. It’s about recognizing what you are experiencing as a normal part of life. Remember, we are all human. By acknowledging our own humanness,...
The best laid plans of mice and men often go awry. -Robert Burns
Anyone who has a habit of making plans for their life will soon realize that things don’t always go as expected. Sometimes, when things don’t go according plan, it’s tempting to feel like a failure. But sometimes, things can even work out better than you had even hoped!
Living in this world today, we know that we can’t always be in control. In fact, this very realization is what can help us accept and overcome when our plans don’t quite succeed. At certain times, we just need to receive the hand that we’ve been dealt and learn to make the best of it.
Plus, since we know that stress is unhealthy and unhelpful, we must learn to counteract the stress by learning to go with the flow.
Keep Calm and Carry On.
In recent years, the phrase “Keep Calm” has been used in a variety of ways to promote a stress-free attitude. The history dates back to World War II in Great...
Voices in our world today come in all shapes and sizes—and volumes. And the loud ones? Well, those certainly aren’t always the best ones! In fact, the loudest voices that you hear may be working against you and stealing away a great deal of your joy. Making conscious choices about what we choose to hear and do can change everything about the way we live our lives.
Where Do Loud Voices Come From?
Loud voices often come from the bullies in the room. Those people who have to rely on sheer volume in order to be heard may not actually be worth listening to! Maybe the loudest voices you are listening to come from famous or rich people from the internet or in your personal life. Loud voices may not even originate from an individual but from cultural norms and expectations and messages that you have believed.
Loud voices can also come from inside ourselves. These internal voices often originate in childhood—many times as a form self-protection or an attempt to act as a...
Chase down your passion like it’s the last bus of the night.
If you’re a person who has ever relied on public transportation, then you know what it’s like to desperately need to catch a bus. Especially if it’s the last bus of the night! If you don’t get it? Well, you’ll be stuck in a place where you just don’t belong.
Sometimes, people wake up in the middle of their lives and wonder how we got to where they are. You might be asking yourself if you missed the bus—or got on the wrong bus. Chasing your passion is sort of like catching the “bus” of life. First, we need to make sure we know what our passions are (getting the right bus) and then we need to run to catch that bus!
Define Your Passions.
If you’re thinking that you’d love to chase your passions but you haven’t yet defined them, you’re certainly not alone. Many people have been living so long to please others that they...
Have you ever considered the fact that you will never have today again? This day, once it’s finished, will simply be part of the past. For some people, this might be very good news. If today has been a challenging day for you, then you might be looking forward to its conclusion! But if you’re enjoying your day, then you may never want it to end.
In either case, today is really the only thing that you have power over. Yesterday has passed. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. So, what are you doing to make today count?!
Consider Your Attitude.
Sometimes just changing your mindset about your day can change everything else too. If you wake up in the morning with dread about what’s ahead, you’ll likely go through your day with an Eeyore-shaped dark cloud floating above you. On the other hand, even when you know that what you have to face might be difficult, you can still look for the silver linings. Changing your attitude can turn a day that had the potential to be...
Successful leaders see the opportunities in every difficulty rather than the difficulty in every opportunity.
Life happens. Plans fall apart. It’s a common theme and no human is immune! Consider if any of the following scenarios ring true with you.
Your perfectly planned trip abroad gets cancelled because of:
The job you always dreamed of is handed to someone else because:
The business investment that was a “sure thing” fell apart because:
First, you might need to get rid of that pesky cat…. But even in the worst of times, you can...
It doesn’t take much more than a slight change of circumstances in your life—or a major crisis—before voices from far and near begin telling you what they think you should do. Usually in an effort to be helpful, people you know (or random strangers on the street) are all-too-eager to dish out guidance, instructions and recommendations.
Maybe it’s something big like changing jobs or sending your kid to college, or something smaller like redecorating your kitchen. As soon as word gets out that something is changing in your life, the advice starts flowing.
In many instances, the advice includes what others define as "success" and include the things that make them happy. It also includes what they think is possible, achievable and can include their own fears and limitations.
However, too much advice ringing in your ear can become noisy and confusing. Of course, you want to take the good advice and leave the rest behind. But how can you know the difference?
No matter how much we might want it to, real life doesn’t allow us to travel through time in the same way that we see in the movies or on television. Whether you imagine yourself saving the world (ala Dr. Who) or you’re just trying to pass your project for history class (more along the lines of Bill and Ted’s Excellent Adventure), eventually you’re going to have to come to terms with the fact that you can really only live for today.
We cannot change the past.
We cannot step into the future.
Ultimately, the only thing we can truly have control over is the present.
Appreciate This Moment
It’s easy to get distracted by past hurts or future worries and forget that this moment, right now, can be good. Even in the midst of hard times, we can find something to learn from and be thankful for. That flower bursting forth through the crack of the sidewalk. The sounds of laughing children on a playground. The smell of fresh brewed coffee. Each day, remember to...
Have you ever met one of those people whose life seems to be absolutely ideal? Someone who never seems to encounter difficulty or struggle in any way? (You know, the folks whose lives are so great that you secretly want to hate them!)
However much it may seem like nothing goes wrong for these people-with-perfect-lives, that’s simply not true. No one has a perfect life. These seemingly perfect-people-you-want-to-hate encounter struggle and difficulty the same as everyone else. They get flat tires. They get cavities. Their pet ferrets run away.
So what’s the difference between these seemingly perfect people and “normal” people?
The difference is the way they handle life’s challenges.
The difference is resilience.
Resilience is all about being flexible or malleable. Being able to recover when things don’t go as expected. Resilience is a quality that allows a person to experience difficulties and then get up, dust off, and move forward.
When you’re looking for success, for adventure, for a new way of living, you don’t need to start by going somewhere. In fact, if you’re unsatisfied with your current situation, the best thing to do is hunker down and ask yourself a few questions.
What is it that you want out of life?
What is right in front of you that you can’t see?
What are you doing that may be sabotaging your happiness or success?
What could you do today that might bring you joy?
The real voyage of discovery consists of not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.
Start by looking at yourself with new eyes. Most of the time, the thing that is getting in the way of success can be found simply by looking the mirror. As children, we create habits in thinking and action based on what we are either taught or learn on our own. Often times, these habits and mindsets are not based on flawed perceptions—and they are not helpful. Good or bad, these habits...
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