Much more important than the expectations and opinions of others is understanding who you are. This is not about what your name is, what your job is or what your roles are in relationship to others. This is about being willing to look at yourself objectively, determine that you have value, and take a look at what your purpose is in life. This is about coming to terms with who you are—not who others think you are.
When you discover who you are, you can find freedom from the constraints of others’ opinions and expectations. You can discover wisdom that helps you make decisions on how to move forward. And you can experience less inner conflict as your actions match up more effectively with your identity.
But how can you find out exactly who you are?
Well, the simplest way is by walking down the path of self-reflection. For some people, this may feel a bit uncomfortable at first. Many people avoid self-reflection because looking in that proverbial mirror might...
Let’s take a minute to think about how babies eat as they start on solid food. Most of the time, they are very satisfied with their mushed-up peas, strained carrots, and weird-looking rice puffs. No salt, no spices, nothing fancy. Usually, they’ll just eat whatever is put in front of them. And sometimes they’ll try to eat things that aren’t even edible!
When you were a kid, the same thing probably happened. Your parents probably filled your plate with food at dinner time and you simply ate it with very few questions. There was likely a time in your life when you probably didn’t have much of a choice as to what was on your plate. You simply ate what was put in front of you.
Sometimes our lives can become like a plate that someone else is filling. Our plates can be full of all kinds of things we don’t want or need, things that we didn’t really choose. If your plate is full and you’re wondering what you can do about it, then read...
Chase down your passion like it’s the last bus of the night.
If you’re a person who has ever relied on public transportation, then you know what it’s like to desperately need to catch a bus. Especially if it’s the last bus of the night! If you don’t get it? Well, you’ll be stuck in a place where you just don’t belong.
Sometimes, people wake up in the middle of their lives and wonder how we got to where they are. You might be asking yourself if you missed the bus—or got on the wrong bus. Chasing your passion is sort of like catching the “bus” of life. First, we need to make sure we know what our passions are (getting the right bus) and then we need to run to catch that bus!
Define Your Passions.
If you’re thinking that you’d love to chase your passions but you haven’t yet defined them, you’re certainly not alone. Many people have been living so long to please others that they...
Successful leaders see the opportunities in every difficulty rather than the difficulty in every opportunity.
Life happens. Plans fall apart. It’s a common theme and no human is immune! Consider if any of the following scenarios ring true with you.
Your perfectly planned trip abroad gets cancelled because of:
The job you always dreamed of is handed to someone else because:
The business investment that was a “sure thing” fell apart because:
First, you might need to get rid of that pesky cat…. But even in the worst of times, you can...
Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.
We all have dreams that we want to accomplish. Whether yours are along the lines of starting a business, losing weight, or learning how to juggle bowling pins, making your dreams into reality starts with many small steps in the right direction.
The beauty of dreams is that they come along with limitless possibilities. When you dream, you can fly. You can conquer the world! When you’re functioning in visionary mode, the sky’s the limit. Dream big. Aim high. Go for broke!
Setting those dreams into motion to become a reality, however, requires some feet-on-the-ground thinking. Honing your dreams into visions and attainable goals requires living in a bit more reality. That doesn’t mean that you’ll never be able to fly (just ask the Wright brothers), but it does mean you need to begin from where you are—with your feet firmly planted on the ground.
Large projects. Small projects. It all needs to be finished by yesterday! Whether you are working for yourself or someone else, a whole load of tasks screams for your attention every day. Competing priorities is a struggle that most people face. Unless you want your life to simply happen to you, you’re going to need to take some initiative and make some plans.
Consider these thoughts about balancing out competing priorities:
The Tyranny of the Urgent
The difference between important and urgent may sometimes be difficult to distinguish. Along the lines of Charles Hummel’s book from the 1960s, the demands in your life can get out of order. Even though making cookies might not be first on your list for the day, if your book club president calls at the last minute to say they’re coming to your place tonight, all of the sudden you start baking! Even though you really don’t have time.
In reality, you’re trying to build your business and...
Do you find it hard to take a long drive without buying a Hershey’s bar? Can’t get through an evening without pouring a glass of wine? Does your habit of negative self-talk sabotage new friendships, new exercise routines?
Habits hold an awesome sway over our lives, for good and for bad. We are, as the old saying goes, creatures of habit. But it is not impossible to change. We can get rid of bad habits and create new, healthier ones.
Here are a few tips from the series and from other experts:
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