Much more important than the expectations and opinions of others is understanding who you are. This is not about what your name is, what your job is or what your roles are in relationship to others. This is about being willing to look at yourself objectively, determine that you have value, and take a look at what your purpose is in life. This is about coming to terms with who you are—not who others think you are.
When you discover who you are, you can find freedom from the constraints of others’ opinions and expectations. You can discover wisdom that helps you make decisions on how to move forward. And you can experience less inner conflict as your actions match up more effectively with your identity.
But how can you find out exactly who you are?
Well, the simplest way is by walking down the path of self-reflection. For some people, this may feel a bit uncomfortable at first. Many people avoid self-reflection because looking in that proverbial mirror might...
Voices in our world today come in all shapes and sizes—and volumes. And the loud ones? Well, those certainly aren’t always the best ones! In fact, the loudest voices that you hear may be working against you and stealing away a great deal of your joy. Making conscious choices about what we choose to hear and do can change everything about the way we live our lives.
Where Do Loud Voices Come From?
Loud voices often come from the bullies in the room. Those people who have to rely on sheer volume in order to be heard may not actually be worth listening to! Maybe the loudest voices you are listening to come from famous or rich people from the internet or in your personal life. Loud voices may not even originate from an individual but from cultural norms and expectations and messages that you have believed.
Loud voices can also come from inside ourselves. These internal voices often originate in childhood—many times as a form self-protection or an attempt to act as a...
Chase down your passion like it’s the last bus of the night.
If you’re a person who has ever relied on public transportation, then you know what it’s like to desperately need to catch a bus. Especially if it’s the last bus of the night! If you don’t get it? Well, you’ll be stuck in a place where you just don’t belong.
Sometimes, people wake up in the middle of their lives and wonder how we got to where they are. You might be asking yourself if you missed the bus—or got on the wrong bus. Chasing your passion is sort of like catching the “bus” of life. First, we need to make sure we know what our passions are (getting the right bus) and then we need to run to catch that bus!
Define Your Passions.
If you’re thinking that you’d love to chase your passions but you haven’t yet defined them, you’re certainly not alone. Many people have been living so long to please others that they...
Have you ever considered the fact that you will never have today again? This day, once it’s finished, will simply be part of the past. For some people, this might be very good news. If today has been a challenging day for you, then you might be looking forward to its conclusion! But if you’re enjoying your day, then you may never want it to end.
In either case, today is really the only thing that you have power over. Yesterday has passed. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. So, what are you doing to make today count?!
Consider Your Attitude.
Sometimes just changing your mindset about your day can change everything else too. If you wake up in the morning with dread about what’s ahead, you’ll likely go through your day with an Eeyore-shaped dark cloud floating above you. On the other hand, even when you know that what you have to face might be difficult, you can still look for the silver linings. Changing your attitude can turn a day that had the potential to be...
When you’re looking for success, for adventure, for a new way of living, you don’t need to start by going somewhere. In fact, if you’re unsatisfied with your current situation, the best thing to do is hunker down and ask yourself a few questions.
What is it that you want out of life?
What is right in front of you that you can’t see?
What are you doing that may be sabotaging your happiness or success?
What could you do today that might bring you joy?
The real voyage of discovery consists of not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.
Start by looking at yourself with new eyes. Most of the time, the thing that is getting in the way of success can be found simply by looking the mirror. As children, we create habits in thinking and action based on what we are either taught or learn on our own. Often times, these habits and mindsets are not based on flawed perceptions—and they are not helpful. Good or bad, these habits...
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