You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be.
Each and every day, in the small things as well as the big ones, you have opportunities to make choices that could change your life. And while some of what you achieve has to do with ability, much of the measure of success is related to your openness toward growth. It has everything to do with how willing you are to develop within a framework of flexibility while overcoming obstacles.
Having a fixed mindset really doesn’t help to fix anything. It just causes you to become stagnant and rigid. A fixed mindset keeps you tethered to old habits. A fixed mindset clouds and dulls your shine.
People with a Fixed Mindset:
But the amazing news is that the power...
Every morning you get out of bed and make a decision about what you’re going to wear. Maybe, like Mark Zuckerberg, you don your “life uniform” of a grey t-shirt and blue jeans. Or maybe you’re more like Lady Gaga, choosing between dressing like a geisha, channeling your inner lightning bolt, or simply wrapping yourself in bacon for the day.
In the same way that you decide what to wear on the outside of your body each day, you also decide (with intention or by default) which mindset will drive your day. This choice that you make every day could make or break your ability to achieve your goals.
With decades of research under her belt, Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck ascertains that your mindset will predict your outcome.
If your mindset it fixed and immoveable, you’ll fail and get stuck. If your mind is geared toward flexibility and growth, you’ll move forward in life.
If you expect to fail, you will.
But if you expect to succeed...
Armed with the knowledge that happiness can be in an indicator of health, and health can predicate longevity, we would all be wise to consider ways we might be able to usher a bit more happiness into our lives!
Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure.
Each day we can decide whether to see our circumstances as “ordeals or adventures”.
As difficulties or opportunities.
As problems or prospects.
Some people seem to naturally be more cynical/negative/unhappy than others. We have all met our share of grumpy-Ebenezer-Scrooge-types. Maybe you are one! These negative people, regardless of circumstances, seem to have a natural bent toward being more of an Eeyore than a Tigger. But even the deepest melancholy can often be overcome with positive thoughts.
If “look on the bright side” doesn’t chime with you at first, don’t be alarmed. You aren’t destined to fail at being happy. But you may have to work a...
Learn to Think (and Act) Like a Millionaire
After hearing about a young person who became a millionaire by the age of 22, all kinds of thoughts may enter your mind. Or that story about Kylie Jenner on the threshold of becoming the youngest-ever-billionaire? Well, she’s certainly living up to her potential and more!
Becoming a millionaire (or billionaire) by the age of 22 would be an amazing feat. However, while it’s not ideal to focus on impossibilities, this is something that is rather unlikely for most of us. Because, if you’re reading this then, ahem, 22 probably happened awhile back.
But just because you might be a bit more mature than these money-making youths, doesn’t mean you can’t take millionaire advice and head in the right direction.
You want more than just the status quo from your life. So much more than just the bare minimum is available to you! You would love to reconnect with your passions, strengthen your relationships, develop you career, improve productivity and find a deeper sense of fulfillment in your life.
Now is the time to silence that voice of doubt and insecurity. It’s time to overcome those fears that are keeping you from your goals and dreams. In order to accomplish anything, you first need to believe that you can. When you dispel the myth that you aren’t “good enough” or you don’t “measure up”, then you’ll make a start toward clearing away the debris of doubt that is cluttering up your path toward success.
Have you ever noticed how resilience is held on a pedestal? It’s that intangible something that allows people to rebound after setbacks, tragedy or suffering. And it turns out that most people really are resilient. It may take some longer than others to move through adversity to a happier time, but most eventually recover their joie de vivre.
What are some of the factors that foster resilience? Strong, trusting relationships; holding a positive view of yourself; the ability to make realistic plans and stick to them; managing emotions effectively; viewing yourself as a fighter, not a victim.
The American Psychological Association offers 10 suggestions for building more resilience. Here are five of them:
Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems. Interpret and respond to stressful events in a way that gives you hope for change rather than a sense of despair. Don’t blow a situation out of proportion.
Accept that change is a part of living.You might not be...
“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing” — Denis Waitley, motivational speaker and consultant
Have you ever considered the mixed messages about failure in our culture? Riding a bike is the metaphor we often use in talking about failure. We encourage children to believe that they can learn the tricky balance required to ride only by falling repeatedly, brushing away the scrapes and the tears and trying again. Yet as they move through elementary, middle and high school, children are often given the message that failure is sign of weak character or for losers. The message is this: Failure is not an option!
We suggest that the first message is the right one: Failure does, indeed, ultimately open the door to success. Here are a few other things to keep in mind about failure:
Failure helps you learn...
Often, we long for something, but don’t know what it is. We dream our big dreams, but don’t know how to achieve them. Having a clear vision — clarity — is often difficult when it comes to deciding what we want in life. But it’s so vital to setting goals and achieving them!
Here are some ideas to help you get the clarity you need:
Put it down: Put your dream life on paper, but think ahead to the life you’d like to be living in five or 10 years. Is it filled with friends? Does it entail a partner or children? Do you see yourself reveling in being alone? What makes you happy? What do you visualize yourself doing — making music, teaching, brokering business deals or gardening? How would you like to make a living? How much of a living? Flesh out the dream with details. Do you want to live in a city, a small town or the country? Which region of the country or the world?
Consider relationships: If it’s in your relationships with...
What is the one thing that not one of us can avoid but which we can influence for good or for bad? Aging! Day by day, we grow older. For some, that realization packs a fear-inducing wallop. But it doesn’t have to be that way. You can embrace reality and choose to age well, which will influence both your well-being and your actual experience of aging.
Here are some tips for staying young at heart — even if you are no longer physically young.
Stay mentally active. Whether it means entering a Scrabble tournament or volunteering on a political campaign, stay engaged with the world. Make friends, including younger ones. Read a book, watch a movie. Remain curious about the world and the people in it.
Be social. Friends are incredibly important to our well-being and can actually help protect us from some mental health maladies. Wondering how to meet people? Perhaps you could join a civic organization or volunteer for a non-profit.
Be active. Aging is much easier for...
“At the height of laughter, the universe is flung into a kaleidoscope of new possibilities.” — Jean Houston
Do you have any idea how good laughter is for you? Increasingly, science is finding that laughter is a natural balm. It can actually induce changes in your body, according to the Mayo Clinic, which says laughter has these physical benefits:
It stimulates your heart, lungs and muscles because of the intake of oxygen-rich air, and increases your brain’s release of endorphins.
It fires up and then relieves your stress response, which results in a good, relaxed feeling.
It soothes tensionby stimulating circulation and aiding muscle relaxation.
But as great as the physical benefits are, laughter also is good for our mental health and social connections. It’s hard to feel sad, angry or anxious when you’re laughing. Have you ever noticed how a good laugh sticks with you, brightening the rest of the day?
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