Have you ever noticed how resilience is held on a pedestal? It’s that intangible something that allows people to rebound after setbacks, tragedy or suffering. And it turns out that most people really are resilient. It may take some longer than others to move through adversity to a happier time, but most eventually recover their joie de vivre.
What are some of the factors that foster resilience? Strong, trusting relationships; holding a positive view of yourself; the ability to make realistic plans and stick to them; managing emotions effectively; viewing yourself as a fighter, not a victim.
The American Psychological Association offers 10 suggestions for building more resilience. Here are five of them:
Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems. Interpret and respond to stressful events in a way that gives you hope for change rather than a sense of despair. Don’t blow a situation out of proportion.
Accept that change is a part of living.You might not be able to achieve certain goals, but you can adapt and you can focus on the circumstances that you can control.
Take decisive actions.“Act on adverse situations as much as you can. Take decisive actions, rather than detaching completely from problems and stresses and wishing they would just go away,” says the APA.
Look for opportunities for self-discovery.Struggling with adversity often makes us stronger. Consider what there is to learn from your difficulties. Do you feel more vulnerable but also stronger? Do you have more appreciation of life or your own self-worth?
Take care of yourself.Be sure to exercise regularly, eat in a way to keep you healthy and pay attention to your needs and feelings. Do things you enjoy and that relax you.
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